I'm not going to lie; I used to let things get to me and I used to get mad a lot. Then I started seeing a mental health person at a clinic place and she described how being angry is a choice and we can always choose not to be angry, so I decided to try that. It took effort and focus and now I can approach a lot of situations without feeling the least bit angry, even when, if it had happened just two years ago, I would have been pissed.
My older kiddo even said a few weeks ago how much calmer I am at night than my parents. I just made the effort to be. I decided not to be angry anymore, so I'm not. It's not simple and it isn't easy but it is doable to still the anger. That's what people don't recognize. I recognize it because I've been taught as such.